Thursday, September 3, 2009

Becoming an On-Purpose Home Keeper

God has taught me so much through the blog of Lylah Ledner. The God-given wisdom that she is leaving to future generations is wonderful, much needed, and much appreciated. In her most recent post she poses the below questions - helping us ladies to assess our home front. I would encourage you all to take some time to ponder these (and to read the rest of her post) ... maybe even jot your answers down in a journal, as Lylah suggested. Please, don't just breeze through these ... pour yourself a cup of tea or coffee. Sit down for a few minutes. And think.think.think. May God do a work in our hearts.

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What is the condition of my home? Is it a mess - clutter every where? Is there peace, unity, harmony?

Are there unresolved conflicts? Am I bitter about unresolved hurts from the past? Do I with hold sex from my husband or use it to manipulate him? Do I have a list of excuses as to why I can’t/don’t want to make love?

Are kind words the norm or is the tone more sarcastic or harsh? If so, why? Do my words edify and build up? Do I complain? Do I manipulate? Do I nag, grumble?

Do I have an attitude of submission and do I show my husband respect? Do I understand that he is God's authority in the home and do I understand what my husband's vision is and do I follow it?

Is communication surface or on a more intimate level? Does my husband’s heart trust me?

Do I wisely manage my time?

Am I content and does it show with joy? Am I always wanting more? Do I compare myself to other women?

Do I prepare nutrition meals for my family?

Am I a busy body?

Do I say things about my husband to others that uncovers his weaknesses…those character areas that God is working on? Do I correct his story in public . . . thus shaming him?

Do I place my children’s needs over that of my husbands? Do I serve my children and train my husband?

Is what I’m about to do going to help my husband? How am I affirming his leadership? Do I know what it means to express my femininity through supporting his leadership? How do I minister to my husband? How do I show him that I am fond of him?

Do I fully understand my biblical job description? Do I fully understand my husband’s biblical job description?

Do I see my husband in light of how God sees him? Or, do I have my husband locked in to patterns of the past? Do the choices I make serve me or my husband? Do I have a love for my home?

Is the God-designed creative nurture expressed within my home?

2 comments:

Lylah Ledner said...

Boy if this doesn't make a Titus 2 - hearted woman smile. Great way to start off my morning - right before I head out to the garden.

May you experience a myriad of God-touches this day as you live before your Audience of One.

Blessings...lylah
la maison et le jardin
simple home living blog too

Unknown said...

These are great tips Shayna! Thanks for sharing :)

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